A few hours ago, on the 4th of February, 2016 I find myself shedding tears involuntarily for a woman I have never met before in my life. One of our local stations kept running the announcement of the burial arrangements of Yeye Bolanle Dare. I had just come in from work and since the local tv comes up first when you switch on this TV, set, I settled for AIT. I could not believe what I was hearing. For me this is another case of the good people not staying around for long.
This woman has 4 biological children and over 40 adopted kids. She owned the Mother Theresa orphanage close to my present office at Asokoro Extension. She had those kids enrolled in a school that I can only at this time aspire to send my kids to. She left her own home in that choice area of Abuja metropolis for the orphaned and abandoned kids and went to live in a rented house elsewhere. I mean who does that? I don’t know a lot about this woman and never got a chance to meet her (I wish I did). She doesn’t know me and has never heard my name mentioned. But I had to stop in my tracks when I heard the sad news. This is one of the few names I have etched in my memory. Why? Simply because she comes across to me as a rare gem. A woman who is an epitome of love. An embodiment of compassion and kindness. A symbol of selflessness! In a world where people barely think about the next person talk more of showing a non-existent love, this woman is a breath of fresh air for me any day, any time and anywhere. A lot of good things were being said about her and for me, that is a fulfilled life.
The feeling of great loss that is felt when a person leaves the world is priceless and is an indication of the level of impact made. I don’t have a picture of her to post here, not that I can’t be bothered with getting one because I would really love to. However, she paints a picture in my mind that I would like for the world to see. If Jesus summarized the ten commandments as loving God and loving one another as presented in Matthew 22 verses 37-40, it simply means love is the most important virtue in the world. Without love, we are nothing. It is our primary assignment in this world. It is the only cure to a sad, dark, downtrodden, failing and falling world that we live in. Sadly, as major as love is, it is very scarce to find or experience in our society.
So when I see love exhibited in many ways than one, I am naturally compelled to celebrate it, because it takes a heart full of love to put others before yourself. So today, though I have not posted in a while, (the why of that can be answered another day), Yeye Bolanle Dare inspired me to pick my instrument at 2 in the morning and write or type. She brings me to my knees to ask that the spirit of love which we have already been given by God (2 Timothy 1 verse 7) will begin to manifest daily in our lives. Yeye Bolanle Dare gives me a reason to write and post immediately (without waiting for days for I-don’t-really-know-what). Yeye Bolanle Dare gives me a nudge to get off my couch and comfort zone and reach out with love to the people connected to my life. Yeye Bolanle is the reason some children smile and have a future. Till that time we know will come soon, sleep well Ma’am.